Have you ever noticed that songs about relationship breakups, divorce etc., actually seem so much more insightful when you’re actually going through one yourself? Even if the artist gets nothing else in common about your doomed relationship and the one he or she is singing about, other than the fact that it’s “over,” you somehow feel connected.
The rest of us happy lot, however, while sympathizing, don’t really “feel” the pain. One would think we would since even though we may be in great relationships, nearly 40% of marriages in this country end in divorce. While studies aren’t provided about dating relationships, we can assume the rate is as high if not higher.
It’s as if divorces and breakups are almost common-place. We tend to forget that they (most of the time) cause sometimes irrevocable damage to people’s finances, friendships and most importantly, health.
These damages tend to work in conjunction with each other. Suddenly having to make two mortgage payments, two utility bills, etc. when a couple used to only pay one puts a financial stress on an already unhappy couple.
Also during this difficult time, we want to reach out to our best friends for support. Unfortunately for many, this best friend is the very one we are breaking up with. If not that, our close friends may feel they can’t be friends to both of the people in the broken relationship and must therefore choose one over the other.
These two stressors alone can adversely affect one’s health, not to mention the mental and emotional strain that a breakup, even one considered “amicable” can produce.
As far as the impact on health is concerned, there are facts and figures to support this.
One recent study reports that women who have been divorced or widowed are more likely to develop heart disease than their married counterparts. Another study states that divorced men have a higher rate of certain cancers than married men. Of those married people who do get cancer, they are more likely to survive than divorcees.
Early deaths (between ages 15 – 64) are higher among both men and women divorcees than married people. Various accidental injuries are more frequent among those suffering emotionally.
Does all of this mean that those who end up single (by choice or not) are doomed to just suffer? I think absolutely not. Much can be done in terms of improving and safe guarding your emotional and physical health. Fortunately it does not mean a series of doctor’s visits in all cases either.
Follow the same tips for good health (or rather initiate them if you have been neglectful of your well being) that you probably already know.
Get some physical exercise. Our bodies are designed to move and we need to keep up our stamina especially during stressful times. It also helps with any undesirable weight gain.
Practice good nutrition. Stressful times tend to affect our eating habits. Some almost stop eating; others turn to “comfort foods.”
Give yourself a break – a real break. Our minds and bodies deserve to relax and this can be done through healthy deep breathing. Increasing your oxygen supply will do wonders for your health.
Do not underestimate the value to voicing your turmoil. Sometimes just sharing these hard feelings out loud with a trusted friend or counselor diffuses the “head noise” significantly.
I also suggest any of my all natural programs to help with a number of health problems from high blood pressure to TMJ. Check out the right hand side of my blog page for more information on these effective programs.
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