Resentment is one of the many negative emotions which overpower the mental and physical well being of an individual. If you are resentful, you are unhappy, unwell, unsuccessful, and devoid of a good, healthy life. A person may channel resentful behavior towards him/herself, towards others, or towards life in general, or become the victim of resentful behavior of other people. Showing or facing resentment is a harmful thing that negatively affects the overall interests of an individual.
How Far Does Resentment Go?
Resentment starts with heavy breathing. The tension starts building in the muscles present in the neck. In seconds, you breathing becomes abnormal, as if you have been cut short of oxygen. The tension developed in your muscles further blocks the normal supply of oxygen.
As a result, a lot of negative energy develops inside the body, thus leading to the loss of positive physical energy. You start getting tired and weak day by day; the problems in the back and the neck start creeping in, and you start experiencing inflammation. The chances of fibromyalgia increase due to the abnormal absorption of oxygen by the body.
The problem doesn’t stop here, as the side-effects of resentment get to the brain. Just as in the case of other abnormal mental states, the brain starts emitting a special chemical that takes no time to spread through the body. As a result, the healthy cells experience wear and tear when they come in contact with this chemical. If you know a person who shows lot of resentment, you can clearly see wrinkles appearing too early on his/her skin. This person would look tired, unhappy, and perhaps even defeated.
When a person gets addicted to resentment, the cells get more addicted to the brain chemical. If you ask such an individual to break free from resentment, chances are that you will see him/ her displaying withdrawal symptoms.
Positive Attitude as a Treatment for Resentment
A positive attitude towards everything and everyone helps a person defeat resentment in a big way. A regular dose of positive outlook should give your mind and body the power to treat resentment as a useless aspect of life.
Remember that resentment is one emotion that cannot, and should not be controlled in a day or two. The idea is find reasons to be happy and positive and make this an important part of your life.
Warm regards,
Christian Goodman
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You are so right , If I understand right, resentement is not in my book, I say always forgive and forget to move on in life. you grow to be stronger and healthier. thankyou and may God bless you even more as you email more trends like this one. D.J.
Thank you for sharing your kind and positive thoughts. I’m sure your generosity will help many.
Great article Christian. Very true. We all need to help lift each other up. As the saying goes: If you see someone who lacks a smile, give them one!
The answer is not to avoid being negative for the very act of avoiding something is to give power to it. Keeping ourselves directed toward positive thought and prayer is the greatest way to draw that good to ourselves. Thank you for your wonderful insight. Tom
Hi Christian,
I know first hand what you mean about resentment. Even though I am ill myself..I have done everything possible for my mom. It was hard at times and I really resented my family for not helping me. I would be physically sick every time I thought about it. Then I realized that I was the only one being hurt and vowed not to bother with them anymore and just get on with what I was doing. I feel like a weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Resentment only hurts you…so why put yourself through it?
Linda
Hi Christian,
Great article(even though there are a few spelling mistakes!!)
I am being pedantic, but I hope you don’t resent me for it!!
I really must keep what you said in mind as it is something that we must keep reminding ourselves to do.
Keep up the good work.
Pat
Christian,
I love that your program has helped me-although I should be more
regimented with your therapy. ***But I am from NYC and I really don’t
cotton to the whole anti-’resentment’ thing. If we all lived out in
California and had great lives then we could let resentment go-but
reality bites and some hatred is good for the soul; especially in New
York.
Let me emphasize again-that I have had some success with your therapy
and I continue to practice your exercises. Thank you-again.
Thank you,
Brian
Hi Christian,
I love reading your articles and this was defintely insightful. Thanks for reminding us to stay positive. It truly is the best way to live a healthy life!
Azzuri
Wow ! when you do the two breathing exercises see just how constricted your throat becomes when you think of resentments, it really brings it home just how we harm ourselves unintentionally. We do need to be more aware. Thank you Christian
I definitely feel my body addicted to resentment. It is a bad habit that is hard to break. Many times a day I notice my shallow breathing and tightening shoulders, so I work on my breathing exercises and relaxing my shoulders everytime. Then a minute later, my shoulders are tight again. I try to keep positive through out the day, but I can’t do it alone without my prayers. It’s hard to forget things, but once you make up your mind to nevermind the body really does follow. The habit of positive thoughts is what I aim for everyday. I don’t want resentment to have me rest in peace, but to live in peace.
I have just started doing the exercises you gave me. I resent having the hurting in my neck,head and shoulders. It will get better.Thanks
Edwanna Melz
I agree with you Christian. Way to go mate. Love anything positive. Those exercises were scary..or rathre the results of them..
The world is full of negatives like resentment and it is so easy to focus on them instead of thinking of the positives. We all need reminders from time to time. Thank you for yours.