There is one word, one emotion, one thought that prevents us from happiness, health, wealth and well being. The word is “Resentment”!
Nothing is as useless and harmful as resentment. It’s all based in our own incompetence and has no positive purpose what so ever.
Just think about it…
Has it ever changed anybody to be resentful towards him/her?
Do you feel any relief in resentment, or does it drag you down?
Does it feel good to you when someone is resentful towards you?
We all know the answer to these questions. But still, we hold on to resentment like our life depended on it.
But did you know that resentment is PHYSICALLY LIFE THREATENING!
Resentment makes us sick in a several way.
If you’ve bought some of my products, you may have noticed how much I like positive thinking. I believe it to be the cure for many conditions.
Lets use a simple exercise to proof my point. You can follow the directions right now while you read. This will only take a couple of minutes.
Directions:
Inhale and exhale normally a few times. Notice how easy or hard it is. Feel how much air you take in and let out (exhaling is even more important than inhaling).
Notice the muscles around the neck, throat and lungs. Are they loose or stiff?
Empty your head of any thoughts while you breath a few times.
Now let your thoughts slide towards something joyful and positive. Something you love to do more than anything. Allow your self to put on a broad smile while you think about this joyful thing.
Notice how light and effortless your breathing becomes. How your muscles relax. How your heart lifts as you think about this thing you love to do. Isn’t this great?
Now, for the sake of this scientific experiment, think about something you resent. It can be anything (justified or unjustified resentment). The more you resent it, the better. Let your self sink into the resentment for a few moments.
Did you notice how your breathing became heavier. Your muscles tensed. You didn’t inhale or exhale as deeply as before. It may have been big or small difference but there was a difference in a few seconds.
Imagine what this does to you if you’re resentful for a whole day!
Think about the effect of not receiving enough oxygen. If you read my article on Fibromalgya, you see the big picture. Your cells need oxygen for survival or you get sick. No doubt about that.
Due to pollution, There is less oxygen in the air than ever before. Even in the countrysides there is much less oxygen than it used to be. If on top of that you don’t breath deep enough, your health will suffer.
As your muscles tense, they block the oxygen flow through them. They also can’t get pollution out of the system. They get weaker and stiffer, day by day. Inflammation, back and neck problems, physical energy loss are all side effects of resentment.
Resentment creates special chemicals in the brain. These chemicals spread throughout the body and connect to every cell through special receptors. These are the same receptors that the cell uses to receive nutrition.
Effects: Cell breakdown. Brake down in the body. Wrinkles, cellular, and other kind of skin problems. Lack of oxygen, tiredness. We get sick!
What’s even worse, the cells get “addicted” to these “resentment chemicals” and demand more of them. Therefore we get addicted to resentment and have to keep it going.
Believe it or not, I’ve seen people go through worse “withdrawal” from resentment than anything else. Including drugs, cigarettes and alcohol.
And it’s physical!
Most people never want to face this withdrawal and keep the resentment going.
So What’s The Solution?
I guess I got you pretty depressed with my negative picture here. But sometimes we have to face the negative with positive attitude and change the dynamic. That’s the answer to all our problem right there.
Focus on the positive. Look at the glass and have it half full instead of half empty. Don’t delude your self, you don’t have to lye about the glass. If it’s mostly empty, don’t be resentful about it, just fill it up 
I’ll be writing a lot about how to develop positive attitude and defeat resentment in my future posts. It doesn’t happen over night. There are lots of aspects to consider. But it may be the most important task you’ll ever take on.
So stay tuned.
Please leave a comment at the bottom of this post.
Warm regards,
Christian Goodman
You are so right , If I understand right, resentement is not in my book, I say always forgive and forget to move on in life. you grow to be stronger and healthier. thankyou and may God bless you even more as you email more trends like this one. D.J.
Thank you for sharing your kind and positive thoughts. I’m sure your generosity will help many.
Great article Christian. Very true. We all need to help lift each other up. As the saying goes: If you see someone who lacks a smile, give them one!
The answer is not to avoid being negative for the very act of avoiding something is to give power to it. Keeping ourselves directed toward positive thought and prayer is the greatest way to draw that good to ourselves. Thank you for your wonderful insight. Tom
Hi Christian,
I know first hand what you mean about resentment. Even though I am ill myself..I have done everything possible for my mom. It was hard at times and I really resented my family for not helping me. I would be physically sick every time I thought about it. Then I realized that I was the only one being hurt and vowed not to bother with them anymore and just get on with what I was doing. I feel like a weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Resentment only hurts you…so why put yourself through it?
Linda
Hi Christian,
Great article(even though there are a few spelling mistakes!!)
I am being pedantic, but I hope you don’t resent me for it!!
I really must keep what you said in mind as it is something that we must keep reminding ourselves to do.
Keep up the good work.
Pat
Christian,
I love that your program has helped me-although I should be more
regimented with your therapy. ***But I am from NYC and I really don’t
cotton to the whole anti-’resentment’ thing. If we all lived out in
California and had great lives then we could let resentment go-but
reality bites and some hatred is good for the soul; especially in New
York.
Let me emphasize again-that I have had some success with your therapy
and I continue to practice your exercises. Thank you-again.
Thank you,
Brian
Hi Christian,
I love reading your articles and this was defintely insightful. Thanks for reminding us to stay positive. It truly is the best way to live a healthy life!
Azzuri
Wow ! when you do the two breathing exercises see just how constricted your throat becomes when you think of resentments, it really brings it home just how we harm ourselves unintentionally. We do need to be more aware. Thank you Christian
I definitely feel my body addicted to resentment. It is a bad habit that is hard to break. Many times a day I notice my shallow breathing and tightening shoulders, so I work on my breathing exercises and relaxing my shoulders everytime. Then a minute later, my shoulders are tight again. I try to keep positive through out the day, but I can’t do it alone without my prayers. It’s hard to forget things, but once you make up your mind to nevermind the body really does follow. The habit of positive thoughts is what I aim for everyday. I don’t want resentment to have me rest in peace, but to live in peace.
I have just started doing the exercises you gave me. I resent having the hurting in my neck,head and shoulders. It will get better.Thanks
Edwanna Melz
I agree with you Christian. Way to go mate. Love anything positive. Those exercises were scary..or rathre the results of them..
The world is full of negatives like resentment and it is so easy to focus on them instead of thinking of the positives. We all need reminders from time to time. Thank you for yours.