“I still don’t understand the difference between empathy and sympathy,” explained a friend’s nine-year-old son while I was attending a get-together recently. I love the learning capabilities of children, especially this one.
He absorbs information at a decent rate but what gets me most is his sincere devotion to understanding the world around him.
As I tried to come up with situations where he could relate because he knew exactly what the person had gone though versus situations where he felt badly but had never personally suffered the same experience, he said, “Before this morning, I would have had sympathy for someone with neck pain but no empathy.”
He went on to explain that he’d slept with his head in a bad position the night before and now had pain. This prompted a neck pain empathy story from me (having suffered a neck trauma before) and finished with another guest relaying her story of cervical vertigo.
She had been in a car accident two years previously and actually lost consciousness for several minutes. While recovering in the hospital she suffered excruciating pain in her neck as a result of severe whiplash.
While still in the hospital, she was diagnosed as having BPPV (Benign Paroxysmal Positional Vertigo), which is not uncommon given her injury.
Her symptoms included: nystagmus (shaking of the eye), nausea, vomiting, sweating and auditory issues including pain and tinnitus (ringing in the ear). All terrible symptoms on their own, let alone combined; however she said the worst to her was the near constant dizziness and pain, in that order.
Physical therapy did help with the majority of the symptoms but to this day, her neck pain and dizziness remain. Added to that, it took over a year for her to even be diagnosed with cervical vertigo. This is because other causes of vertigo including inner ear disease have to be ruled out first.
At this point, knowing what her condition was didn’t help much as far as the pain and dizziness was concerned. Pain medications alleviated some symptoms but created their own nasty effects. Physical therapy provided the most relief but the exercises didn’t seem to be specific enough.
Before following up on another friend’s advice to see a chiropractor, she did some research and learned that manual manipulation of the neck and spine could actually make the condition worse.
Now, things were “OK,” as she put it, with the only problem now being that when she would turn her head suddenly, at a certain angle, dizziness and pain would ensue – sometimes for hours.
Having heard this story, both my friend’s son and I sat with our jaws dropped. I, because I have programs I was sure could help, having gone through neck pain due to injury and my young friend because he had a sore neck for a day.
He decided that no, he did not, in fact have that level of neck pain empathy but that was OK. Sympathy would suffice.
I also urged my new friend to try both my Dizziness and Vertigo program and my Neck Pain program. I’m excited to see how they will help her and I’m excited to see how they can help you as well!
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